Congratulations on Completing The Fear and Anxiety Assessment
Your overall score is 0 out of 100. This mid to high score suggests that irrational fear or chronic anxiety is a problem in your life. This video titled: What is the cause of your chronic anxiety or irrational fear? will explain why. The other thing your score suggests, is that your anxiety or fear is probably not a desperate enough problem in your life that you feel compelled to do anything about it.
Where You Currently Are:
Your approach to fear and anxiety causes some problems in your life. You either feel held back by fear and anxiety, making you less productive. Or you’re still very productive yet have anxiety that seems irrational and uncalled for, that is ruining many of your experiences. You see fear as a hindrance and something to fight, control or get rid of. You feel frequent if not chronic low-grade anxiety and stress, though it comes and goes. You can still function well and have moments of joy, but they are not your norm.
1. think avoidance of anything fearful or stressful will make you feel it less — so you may take fewer risks than you’d like or have modified your life in other ways.
2. you do take risks, but the risk is approached in a gradual way so as not to take you too far out of your comfort zone. You may stay in bad relationships longer than you should, or in a career that doesn’t make your heart sing, because the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know. You sense that your anxiety levels are affecting your health, but so far it’s still manageable. Sleep is a problem for you, but it’s not too bad, yet.
Tips + Steps You Can Take Now:
- I’ve found that people won’t change unless they have to. So, ask yourself this: is fear and anxiety a big enough problem for me, that I’m willing to do some work to change my pattern around it?
- If the answer is no, please reconsider. You are close to the edge of triggering irreversible damage to your physical, emotional psychological and spiritual well-being. Please don’t wait until you’re forced to do something until after a part of your life –health, work or relationship– falls apart. Better to find this path now than be carried there on a stretcher.
- If the answer is yes, great. Now ask: ok, how much effort am I willing to put into this, in order to feel better?
- These questions are important, because if you aren’t crippled by fear and anxiety, you may stay stuck in your pattern for decades, until you ultimately believe it’s fine to not feel great, but not too bad either. That’s no life.
- If you say ok, I’m willing to do some work to feel better, then picking the right action is the next step.
- There are many methods such as psychological therapy, breathing exercises, positive self-talk, meditation, tapping, float tanks and more to help you calm down. Most of these work great in the short term to make you feel better. Other neuroscience methods such as cognitive behavior therapy, neurofeedback or laser / light therapy will help you to feel more calm. These are all great resources to quell the symptoms of chronic anxiety or irrational fear, and can get you through some tough times.
- However, I recommend instead addressing the underlying cause, so you don’t go down the slippery slope of managing symptoms your whole life or resorting to brain science to fix an emotional problem.
- The cause is not the great mystery you may think it is. Watch the video above to find out more, if you haven’t watched it already. The cause is your continued resistance to fear, and your attempts to use your mind to understand and control this emotion.
- The key to permanently ending the cause, is for you to not spend time trying to understand your fear or anxiety- which is time consuming, relentless and because it changes so often, ultimately impossible. The other key is to avoid efforts to control your fear or anxiety- which will only create for you greater problems over time. Get this at your core: when you’re experiencing problems, what has happened is this: in trying to control fear, whatever you try to control winds up controlling you. Whatever you fight, will fight you back, and certainly in the case of fear will win every time.
- Instead find a way to feel your fear, which exists in your body and not your mind, and learn how to have an honest relationship with it.
- The ultimate goal is for you to end the unwinnable war with fear, and make friends with it instead.
- You do this by first recognizing that fear and anxiety is a normal and natural part of your human experience.
- Second, recognize that it’s your resistance to it, which has become the bigger problem than the feelings of fear or anxiety itself.
- Learn how to stop resisting it, and instead how to feel your feelings in an honest way, and you will feel much better and be on the right path toward a healthier future.
*Note: this assessment is not medically supported or science based. It comes from Kristen’s experience working with thousands of clients. This Web site and assessment is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is provided with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering legal, accounting, medical or other professional services. If legal or medical advice or other professional assistance is required, the services of a competent professional person should be sought.