Flight List, How To Know If You’re Resisting Emotions


Stop Coping & Start Resolving

2-Day Live Camp

Salt Lake City, Aug 17-18, 2019

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This is the #1 most important step I recommend, to turn any fear or anxiety problem around.

When I work with clients looking to solve any emotional problem, right away I’m on the lookout for what they say about Fear. The reason being, however they speak about this core emotion, is how they speak about themselves.

If they say things like ‘I hate fear,’ because fear is such a huge part of our makeup, it’s akin to saying ‘I hate myself.’  If they say ‘I ignore fear,’ it’s akin to saying ‘I ignore what’s going on in my life.’ Such words reveal exactly what we’re dealing with, and I base what happens next on such language.

And, far too often, here’s what I see; imagine you have a lifelong roommate (fear) and you talk about him in a controlling, dismissive or derogatory way. You say things like; ‘he’s not even real, he holds me back, he needs to be conquered,’ and more. Can you see that roommate has no recourse but to fight and project back, in an equally aggressive way?

Keep it up, over time you and fear only become engaged in a mutually escalating war. Fear becomes more clever, showing up in ever growing, weird or disjointed ways. All this happens because of how to view and subsequently talk about fear. Until you stop such language, your emotional issues will only get worse.

Who is this Guide For?

Do you:

  • struggle with fear, anxiety, or other emotional issues

  • struggle with confidence

  • have a loved one who struggles with any of the above

  • speak about fear as if it’s a bad thing

  • are convinced fear is a bad thing

  • feel embarrassed about your fear or other emotional issues

  • suspect you repress or ignore fear, and know that you shouldn’t do that

  • suspect a more honest, considerate relationship with your fear might be helpful

  • have kids and want to make sure they grow up to be emotionally healthy adults

  • are tired of doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results

  • hate fighting a war with yourself, and want it to finally end

  • want to live a bigger, more honest, or relaxed life

  • are tired of being stuck on old patterns, and feel ready to make a change

If any of these apply, you’ll be very excited by this language guide and what it offers.

The best thing you can do to feel better, is change your language about fear. Everything that you want, will follow. 

– Kristen Ulmer

Why This Works

Changing your language modernizes your perspective. It’s the crucial first step leading to emotional change.

Forever you’ve been taught to speak about fear as something to be overcome, let go of, controlled or rationalized away. This language creates the very environment, that causes your emotional problems in the first place. No one likes to be controlled or conquered, least of all an emotion as strong as fear.

It’s not just semantics either. Words matter. How so? Ask yourself, what’s the first thing you’d think to do, to end a war with your roommate? You’d start talking to and about him in a kinder way, that’s what. Which would soften things immediately. The roommate (fear) will in turn, be kinder back. He’ll calm right down, and so too, will you.

Keep it up, your emotional issues will start to resolve.

Now, you may be thinking, ‘Hell no! Fear started it. He should talk nicer to me! But you don’t want to stay in that outdated, exhausting mindset. Fighting a war with fear hasn’t worked for you, or for anyone. Resisting your biology, will not gain you the results you desire.

What will, is an entirely new fear paradigm found in this guide, which better matches today’s evolving world and all we now understand. But that shift won’t happen on its own. It comes only if and when you learn how to start speaking about fear in a modern way.

Here's What You'll Learn

This is an actual dictionary, with specific and words and sentences you’ll use to replace how you normally speak about fear. It’s extremely thorough, and covers hundreds of scenarios.

Without this dictionary, because of existing norms you’ll only blindly come back to dismissive language again and again, which leads to irrational fear, looping anxiety, eventual depression and more. With it, these problems will soon become a thing of the past.

You’ll learn:

  • If you have a fear or anxiety problem, exactly what caused it

  • Why such problems are rampant in our society, based on old, outdated standards on how we’ve been taught to view and speak about fear

  • How to end your war with fear, forever

  • How to stop negative self-talk

  • How to speak about your fear / anxiety so you no longer feel embarrassed about it, or compelled to hide it

  • How to talk to others who struggle with fear or anxiety, in the proper way

  • What to say to someone who’s blaming their emotions on you

  • What to say to someone who’s shaming you for feeling fear

  • How to be vulnerable and have it feel non-threatening

  • How to be honest and authentic regarding what you feel, to yourself and others

  • What to say to your kids about fear, so they don’t grow up to have anxiety or other issues

  • What to say to your kids, so they grow up instead to be courageous, thriving adults

And much more…

A deep wisdom lies within you, that’s jumping up and down trying to get your attention. Kristen will help you access it.

  • “Afterwards, I noticed that I felt lighter. In the days that followed, I noticed that my light feeling became clarity of mind. As the days went, the clarity didn’t go away (as I feared it would) and I began to notice that my emotions were more translucent and rose and fell, rather than overcoming me or creating a suffocating fog. I kept thinking it would wear off, but it hasn’t."

    - Olaf Kowalik

  • “My fear disappeared about three months ago. I have been public speaking without panic attacks and have experienced ease and spontaneous interaction with people I would have been intimidated by in the past. Also no constant free-floating anxiety in the background all the time. A great relief after 40 years of struggle. So, thank you.”

    - Mike Ginn

  • "The experience was outstanding. None of us will ever be the same."

    - Allen L Piper

  • "I wanted to thank you for changing my life. I don’t think I realized how much of an impact (your work) had on me until recently and it’s been a year since I attended. I knew it had an impact right after, but as time has gone on, there have been more and more lessons that pop up into my head that I never initially considered. I love that!"

    - Amy Epp

  • "Thank you hughly for all that you gave to us and everybody in that camp. It was just absolutely amazing. It’s not only a once in a lifetime experience but just from a teaching perspective some of the things you did were just really astonishing."

    - George Hart

  • "I am on this amazing turbo charged growth path – I am blooming faster and faster, at a wonderfully rapidly unfolding pace- there are truly no words to describe this. (Working with you) is one of the three BIGGEST events in my life that have helped me really turn a HUGE corner. I am deeply grateful!! Thank YOU!"

    - Martha Hamilton

  • "The whole experience was life-changing. I feel that something switched for me and I was shown a new way to see the world and myself.”

    - Alyson Dutch

  • “I could not have made it through such an intense transitional year without your teachings. I do not believe the words thank you are powerful enough.”

    - Cynthia Aherne

  • "If I can make that kind of change in one weekend, what else can I do? I feel like someone took my training wheels off."

    - Olaf Kowalik

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Flight List, How To Know If You’re Resisting Emotions

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There are plenty of choices for lodging, and we do not recommend any one place. Yes, consider getting a rental car, although uber or public transportation are also great options.

Day 1

Morning Session: 10am – 1pm. Includes mid-session bathroom break:

You’ll have submitted reasons for attending and what you hope to get out of the camp in advance. Thus, after a brief intro and meet and greet, we dive right in. By the end of the morning, you have a clear understanding of what your relationship is with your own mind, and also with fear. It’s likely quite different than what you imagined. Prepare to be stunned by the depth of your learning, how it applies to your life, and immediately addresses your reason for attending.

Lunch Break: 1pm – 3pm on your own

Afternoon Session: 3pm – 6pm. Includes mid-session bathroom break:

What we explore next, is based on your requests. This session is very targeted toward resolving exactly what you and others came to resolve. By the end of this first day, you’re crystal clear on any stuck places, and what needs to happen in order for you to get unstuck.

Day 2

Morning Session in the park: 10am – 1pm. Includes mid-session bathroom break:

Armed with new awareness, we spend time in this public place to learn and implement Kristen’s four-step Art of Fear Method in real life scenarios.

This is a comfortable experience and you’re not asked to do anything besides walk and interact with Kristen and the others. We also explore how to use your new practice, to enhance your life, career, relationships or performance.

Lunch Break: 1pm – 3pm on your own

Afternoon Session: 3pm – 6pm. Includes mid-session bathroom break:

One of the most powerful facilitated practices Kristen offers, first we go on a mindset journey that gives you an understanding of all it means to be a human being. This explains and changes so much. Then, we clean up loose ends and answer remaining questions that you have. The final goal being, you end the weekend armed with a clear, concise path for implementing all that you learned, so it’s sustainable and lasting beyond the weekend.

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Kristen has helped tens of thousands of clients make powerful perspective shifts around fear and anxiety.

Now it’s your turn

If you only take one single action step regarding your fear or anxiety, changing your language should be it. It’s crucial to make this shift, and will lead to the end of irrational fear, lower your anxiety, start the process to turn around depression and more. Which is why, in every course, event or talk, I emphasize changing your language first and foremost.

Unlike anything you’ve ever seen or imaged before, this guide will dramatically change your perspective, change how you talk to yourself, and change how to talk to other people about fear and anxiety.  With it, you’ll be on the cutting edge of desperately needed progress, being the change the world needs to stop the madness of fear, anxiety and other emotional problems that cripple too many of us. Not only is your life about to change, but with this guide you’ll never experience yourself, other people, fear, or anxiety the same way again.

Here’s how it works:

STEP 1 :  Click the Add to Cart button, then checkout using our secure checkout page


STEP 2 : You will immediately be sent a download link to view the manual


STEP 3 : You can always find the manual in the download section of myaccount


STEP 4 :   Start reading and start speaking your new inclusive language

Here’s everything you get when you enroll:


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Frequently Asked Questions

I’ve tried everything and nothing has worked. Why should I assume this won’t be the same dead end?

Most efforts to deal with fear or anxiety are about symptom control –calming you down only for a moment or day. Which never lasts. They’re also, as you’ll soon learn, exacerbating your fear or anxiety, which keeps you stuck in a cycle of symptom control that can become relentless.

My approach is completely different. It only addresses the root cause of your problem. It’s proven to work. And if it doesn’t, heck, with a money back guarantee, you have nothing to lose!

It sounds too good to be true.

Sure does. So do a lot of things that are revolutionary and new. But why don’t you find out for yourself. It’s only $9, and you get your money back if it proves to be anything less than it promises

Why just $29?

If you’re thinking “$29 is nothing… what’s the catch?” Here are two reasons that should put your mind at ease:

  1. $29 puts this information within reach of everyone… from single moms to entrepreneurs and beyond.
  2. It makes sure you’re serious. I only want to reach people who are truly ready to address and resolve their emotional problems, and in my experience charging anything… even if it’s just a dollar… eliminates 99% of the folks who aren’t.

I also believe that once you experience this manual, that you’ll want more of what I have to offer. And maybe… just maybe… you’ll come back with an even greater curiosity to see what else is possible, with this unique and powerful work.

And that’s it. No fine print…no hidden nasties…no spinning words. Just super practical advice that will gain you completely different results than anything you’ve ever tried before

Why should I buy this manual versus talk with a therapist?

Besides the dramatic price difference? Three reasons:

First, emotional problems are not meant to be dealt with intellectually. Which is why talking and thinking about your fear with a therapist won’t help. Instead, as you’ll soon learn, they’re meant to be dealt with emotionally.

Second, therapists learn about fear or anxiety as theory in college. I learned by dealing with a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety, experimenting with exactly what works and what doesn’t, leading me to become the best in the world at something very scary for 12 years. This makes my methods very practical, based entirely on experience, and also explains why they work so well. Consider this as you make your choice.

Third, what I teach isn’t yet available in college curriculum, which means therapists don’t know about this yet. It’s only available here.

Does what you teach, really work?

YES! Check out my testimonials. Plus, once it all gets broken down, it’s so shockingly obvious what the problem has been for you and what to do instead, you’ll be surprised you never thought of this before.

Is there a guarantee?

Of course! All of my content and trainings have a 5-week, no-questions-asked guarantee.

If you aren’t happy for any reason, just let me or my team know and we’ll give you your money back. We obviously don’t think it’ll come to that, but if you’re even the least bit worried, let me put your mind at ease. Either you’ll get the answers and results you want or you get your money back. It’s that simple.

Tell me about the money back guarantee

5-week money back guarantee. If you experience the manual and it doesn’t offer you all it promises and more, send us an email and you’ll get a full refund