Fear or Anxiety Is Holding Me Back

You want to live your best life, yet not feel emotionally compromised

Fear or Anxiety Is Holding Me Back

You want to live your best life, yet not feel emotionally compromised

What Causes This Issue

Your relationship with fear, determines whether it turns into anxiety or not

If you take risks and act on your great ideas, but have to deal with subsequent anxiety, excessive fear or emotional drama, here’s what has gone wrong.

My name is Kristen Ulmer. I was called ‘fearless’ during my ski career, which led me to contemplate and research fear and anxiety for over 33 years to come up with my unique concepts and methods. If fear or anxiety holding you back is your issue, what I’ve learned is:

It doesn’t matter what kind of risks you take –request a promotion, ask the girl out, launch the new business– whatever they are, fear is a natural part of the process. It WILL be there. (Note: Fear is also there if you don’t take the risk, but that’s another conversation.)

And, it’s the perfect design. If you embrace the fear, it flows into, through and out of your body in 10-90 seconds each time (proven by science), making you present and helping you bring your A-Game to any task.

Conversely, if you resist that natural fear, this leads to issues.

Now, there are many resistance styles, and everyone is different. In general though, if your usual response to fear is is; “I refuse to feel it” or “I need to get rid of it before I proceed,” such resistance either:

1. stops you from proceeding, so you no longer have to feel the fear.

2. leads to ‘whatever you resist, persists.’ Fear gets stuck in your system like water trapped in a kinked hose, and recirculates round and round (this is anxiety).

3. results in a war with fear and thus a war with yourself, which creates exaggerated emotional drama.

Now, really let that all sink in. Turns out fear is actually not the issue. It’s your relationship with fear, namely your unwillingness to feel it, that is the issue.

Conversely, if you become willing to feel your fear in a natural way, then anxiety doesn’t develop, and fear is only a great part of your process.

That’s what occurred for me during my ski career, which led to my becoming the best in the world at my sport for over a decade. That’s also the secret of entrepreneurs and other risk-takers who act freely on their great ideas without hesitation, yet can still sleep well at night.

What Makes it Worse

However you treat fear, determines how it treats you in return

This may surprise you, but the more you engage in numerous, well-intended and popular methods to reduce your fear or anxiety, the more your issue grows over time.

The reason being, imagine fear as your human child. Like with any human, if you try to control, get rid of or conquer an individual (this last one suggests a war), you may win a battle here and there. But who likes to be controlled or fought with like that? Certainly not fear. It leaves it no choice but to retaliate and fight back.

Keep it up, you develop a persistent and escalating issue with that child (fear), causing it to be more aggressive over time. We see this statistically, as despite all the clever methods available, 40% of anxiety sufferers report greater anxiety this year than last.

Adding to the problem, it becomes cyclical. As fear becomes more aggressive, you may ramp up your efforts, seeing these popular methods as your only salvation to feel better. It may never occur to you that the very thing that seems to help, only aggravates fear further, making it also ramp up its efforts in return.

Here are some of the methods I see regarding how we deal with fear (aka anxiety) that cause worse problems, and brief explanations why:

  • Ignore it: you go numb or stoic, or use food, alcohol or prescription / recreational drugs etc. to accomplish this. Does not make it go away, only makes it yell louder to get your attention. These efforts also cause other problems in your life.

  • Distract yourself from it: by doing something you love, exercising, going out with friends etc. It's a temporary 'running-away' solution, which leaves fear no choice but to either chase you or tsunami you later when you're less distracted.

  • Avoid it: quit your job, simplify your life, not take risks etc. Alas, fear is with you regardless. You cannot avoid that inevitable part of life. Do this, and it only shows up in different places, in different ways.

  • Replace it with positivity: breathing exercises, goal-oriented meditation, 'choosing' calm, laughter, gratitude etc. Makes you feel great in the moment, yet It's like putting a band-aid over a wound. Alas, under that facade, it just starts to fester.

  • Let it go: Breathing exercises, guided meditation, visualization etc. Fear is not like CO2. It can't or shouldn't be let go of. It's more like food that's supposed to digested. Anything else is controlling (see below).

  • Control or regulate it: Who likes to be controlled? Certainly not the Amgydala, and certainly not fear. They are more sophisticated than you and if you try this, they only control you right back (in either obvious or covert ways).

  • Fight it: conquer, overcome, etc. Such language puts you at war with fear and thus at war with yourself. When all fails, leads to use of prescription or recreational drug use as it's the only way to "win" that war.

  • Train your brain: CBT. Anxiety disorders are called 'mental' illness, and are thus being dealt with mentally. Yet, they're emotional illness, which need to be dealt with emotionally. Anything else is off-point and thus loads of effort.

  • Rationalize it away: again, CBT. This is akin to rationalizing away the nature of life itself. Very difficult. Triggers fear to move out of your emotional body and invade your thoughts. Also, can cause you to be at war with your own mind.

  • Try to understand it: talk therapy, studying neuroscience etc. Interesting stuff, but keeps you trapped in your head, dealing with it intellectually rather than learning how to feel it in an emotional way. It's the biggest form of resistance I see.

What to Do Instead

You’re No Longer Going to Engage in Methods That Only Offer You, At Best, Temporary Relief

To make this transition from resistance to embracing, start with knowing you have a choice to make.

The choice is this: Keep going down that route in which you’re already invested, knowing it takes you no further than you’ve gone so far. For many, that may be enough.

Or, head in a new direction.

If you choose the latter, here’s what that new direction looks like:

You learn how to allow fear its rightful place in your life and be in flow with it, so that it comes into, through and out of your system in 10-90 seconds, and doesn’t stay a moment longer.

To make this shift, of course it does require effort. But it’s a lot less effort than trying to overcome, let go of or rationalize away fear your whole life. And, you finally get the results you desire.

You get to stop being a statistic, and instead be among the folks who do NOT have a fear or anxiety issue.

Get in flow with your fear the way nature intended, and be amazed how quickly everything changes.

" The most important personal work you can ever do, is learn how to be in flow with Fear. Not only does fear or anxiety calm right down, but everything you want, follows. "

- Kristen Ulmer

How To Make That Transistion

So long as you see fear as a negative and continue to talk about it in a derogatory way, you face ongoing issues with fear or anxiety that will never resolve.

However, if you change your perspective about fear and start to talk about it as a positive, your fear or anxiety issues resolve. I’ve seen it happen again and again.

Which is why I recommend with every new client, that the most important step is changing your language about how you talk about fear, to yourself and others.

Now, it’s not the easiest thing to do. Our culture calls fear a “low vibration energy.” We say it’s “false evidence appearing real.” We’re taught again and again to get rid of or overcome it. It’s easy to get swept up in that language. It’s also tempting to blame many of our issues on fear, rather than own our part in creating those issues.

Yet that dismissive approach is not working. Despite all attempts to get rid of or fight fear, anxiety disorders are only getting worse. OCD, irrational fear, insomnia, panic attacks, etc. plus recreational and prescription drug use to deal with all this etc. are on the rise.

At a time like this, when an industry-wide approach to dealing with an escalating issue continues to fail us, it’s time to completely re-think and re-boot what to do. And what I’ve found to be most important re-boot of all, is to change your language about how we speak about fear.

Do this, and not only do you feel remarkably better, but you’re also part of the growing revolutionary change the world so greatly needs, to help us turn fear or anxiety issues around on a global scale.

Fear is a deep wisdom that lies within you, that’s merely jumping up and down trying to get your attention. I help you make friends with it, in an honest way.

  • "I noticed that I felt lighter. In the days that followed, I noticed that my light feeling became clarity of mind. As the days went, the clarity didn't go away (as I feared it would) and I began to notice that my emotions were more translucent and rose and fell, rather than overcoming me or creating a suffocating fog. I kept thinking it would wear off, but it hasn't."


    - Olaf K.

  • "When I rebuilt my relationship with Fear from the ground up, there were career side benefits. My superiors started commenting on observable improvements in my performance. After about 2.5 years I was promoted to supervisor. I caught on more, and began to apply what I had learned with Kristen directly to my new work challenges. And now, I've been promoted to manager, which includes an immediate 70% pay raise."


    - Jacquetta W.

  • "My staff reckon I'm not that cranky or dark as much as I used to be and that's only after a couple of weeks of practice."


    - Jerry B.

  • "The difference now is that I will let the answers come to me, rather than fighting and hunting."


    - Amy E.

  • "I am in a far better place now than I was before… I honestly feel enlightened and renewed – I have PATIENCE again?!?!"


    - Connie B.

  • "I can't say enough about the experience. I’ve spent a fair amount of the day raving about it to friends and family."


    - Kyle B.

  • "You opened my mind to possibilities again. Kristen, you are truly inspiring."


    - Kathy W.

  • "All I have to say is WOW! What an amazing experience!! Kristen, Thank YOU for being so wonderful to have the vision and foresight to put a program like this together. You are truly making an impact to the population one by one."


    - C. Wilson

  • "I can't believe the transformation I've undergone from the analytical tight ass that I was to this free-flowing self."


    - Stefan N.

  • "If I can make that kind of change in one weekend, what else can I do? I feel like someone took my training wheels off."


    - Olaf K.

  • "The whole experience was life-changing. I feel that something switched for me and I was shown a new way to see the world and myself."


    - Alyson D.

  • "I am on this amazing turbo charged growth path – I am blooming faster and faster, at a wonderfully rapidly unfolding pace- there are truly no words to describe this. (Working with you) is one of the three BIGGEST events in my life that have helped me really turn a HUGE corner. I am deeply grateful!! Thank YOU!"


    - M. Hamilton

  • "I wanted to thank you for changing my life. I don't think I realized how much of an impact (your work) had on me until recently and it's been a year since I attended. I knew it had an impact right after, but as time has gone on, there have been more and more lessons that pop up into my head that I never initially considered. I love that!"


    - Amy E.

  • "The experience was outstanding. None of us will ever be the same."


    - Allen P.

  • "My fear disappeared about three months ago. I have been public speaking without panic attacks and have experienced ease and spontaneous interaction with people I would have been intimidated by in the past. Also no constant free-floating anxiety in the background all the time. A great relief after 40 years of struggle. So, thank you."


    - M. Ginn

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Kristen has helped tens of thousands of clients make powerful perspective shifts around fear and anxiety

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If you only take one single action step regarding your fear or anxiety, changing your language should be it. It’s crucial to make this shift, as it leads to the resolution of irrational fear, lowers your anxiety, starts the process to turn around PTSD and/or depression. and so much more. This is why in every course, event or talk, Kristen emphasizes changing your language first, and foremost.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why just $15?

If you’re thinking “$15 is nothing… what’s the catch?” Here are two reasons that should put your mind at ease:

-$15 puts this information within reach of everyone, from single moms to entrepreneurs and beyond.

-It makes sure you’re serious. Kristen only wants to reach people who are truly ready to address and resolve their emotional problems. And in her experience charging anything, even if it’s just a dollar, eliminates 99% of the folks who aren’t.

She also believe that once you experience the profound effects that come from merely changing your language, that you might come back with an even greater curiosity to see what else is possible, with this unique and powerful work.

And that’s it. No fine print, no weird twists. Just a super practical language advice that gains you a completely different perspective, and forever alters your emotional life. 

Why should I buy this guide, versus keep doing what I've been doing?

If what you’ve been doing regarding fear and anxiety has helped, likely you want to keep it up, right?

But if you’ve only gotten limited results, or you find what you’ve been doing stops working the moment you stop practicing it –your fear or anxiety comes flooding right back– then it’s time to try this guide.

This guide is one of the first major steps you can take toward getting away from the insanity of doing the same thing over and over and not getting different results. Here you try something entirely new. A new that could maybe (wink) just maybe, offer you better results that are more permanent and life altering, than what you’ve been doing.

Does what Kristen teaches, really work?

YES. Check out her testimonials. Plus, once you start to implement her methods and approach, it’s so shockingly obvious what the problem has been for you and what now to do, you’re surprised you never thought of it before!

What else does Kristen have to offer?

If the 100 Questions don’t appeal to you, write an email to: Kristen@kristenulmer.com and tell us what’s going on and what you’re looking for, so we can steer you in the right direction

Is there a guarantee?

Yes. All of Kristen’s content and training’s have a 5-week, no-questions-asked guarantee.

If you aren’t happy for any reason, just let us know and we give you your money back. We obviously don’t think it’ll come to that, but if you’re even the least bit worried, let us put your mind at ease. Either this is a game changer that sets you on course for real change, or you get your money back. It’s that simple.

Is Kristen a doctor or therapist?

No. Kristen’s training started with real world experience; being the best in the world at a difficult sport for 12 years, exploring exactly what works and what doesn’t regarding fear and other emotions, in a heightened environment.

Then, she voraciously studied not psychology, but Zen for over 15 years. This is what helped her most of all, establish and solidify her current methods and practices.

Her third credential came from working with over ten thousand clients now, over the last two decades, helping them gain remarkable and proven results.

Tell me about the money back guarantee?

5-week money back guarantee. If you experience the guide and you don’t think it holds merit for you and your journey toward emotional health, send us an email and you get a full refund.

I'd rather work with Kristen privately. Can I do that?

Kristen is currently working with clients one-on-one, so that option is available to you should you desire. Find out more here: https://www.kristenulmer.com/private-sessions-with-kristen/