When Kristen works with any new client, right away she’s on the lookout for how they speak about Fear. The reason is; however they refer to this core emotion, speaks volumes about how they speak to themselves. It also reveals the core of their issue.
For example, if they say things like ‘I hate fear,’ because fear is such a huge part of our makeup, it’s akin to saying ‘I hate myself.’ If they say ‘I ignore fear,’ it’s akin to saying ‘I ignore what’s going on in my life.’ Not only that, such language leads to emotional issue.
Likely you’ve been trying everything under the sun to quell your fear or anxiety. Therapy, meditation, breathing exercises, positive affirmations and on and on. Maybe you’ve found a few things that work to get you through a moment or day, or sleep only ok at night –if you’re lucky. But it’s barely working and / or the effects don’t last. Fear or anxiety remains an ongoing issue, hurting your enjoyment of life.
Do you have trauma-related stress that consumes too much of your life? If yes, likely you’ve tried many approaches to feel better. Some work a bit, others don’t at all. But what’s so frustrating is, they only help you feel better for a moment or day. And if you stop, the stress just comes right back.
Plus, you’re not even clear why you have PTS(D) in the first place, when others who’ve gone through similar trauma don’t.
When negative emotions take over, nothing else matters. Your mind loops relentlessly. You feel crummy. It’s so hard just to get through the day.
Or, perhaps you go numb and start to feel dead inside. Either way, one thing’s clear, you need to get out of this emotional prison as soon as possible so you can start living again.
But how do you do that? What action should you take?