Forever you’ve been taught to speak about fear as something to be overcome, let go of, controlled or rationalized away. This language creates the very environment, that causes your emotional problems in the first place. No one likes to be controlled or conquered, least of all an emotion as strong as fear.
It’s not just semantics either. Words matter. How so? Ask yourself, what’s the first thing you’d think to do, to end a war with your roommate? You’d start talking to and about him in a kinder way, that’s what. Which would soften things immediately. The roommate (fear) will in turn, be kinder back. He’ll calm right down, and so too, will you.
Keep it up, your emotional issues will start to resolve.
Now, you may be thinking, ‘Hell no! Fear started it. He should talk nicer to me! But you don’t want to stay in that outdated, exhausting mindset. Fighting a war with fear hasn’t worked for you, or for anyone. Resisting your biology, will not gain you the results you desire.
What will, is an entirely new fear paradigm found in this guide, which better matches today’s evolving world and all we now understand. But that shift won’t happen on its own. It comes only if and when you learn how to start speaking about fear in a modern way.