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This is a detailed checklist of the many reasons you unconsciously keep your emotional problem around

Here’s the deal: Especially if you’ve had an emotional issue for a year or longer, you may be surprised that you receive one or even several dozen payoffs (aka “perks”) for having this issue in your life. Payoffs that you likely don’t want to give up.

And the thing is, you probably have never acknowledged them, or even know that you have them or certainly know what they are.  All you may be aware of is, you aren’t motivated enough or can’t seem to shake this issue, and thus have resorted to coping mechanism to deal with it and nothing more.

This is a clear sign you receive payoffs for having this issue in your life.

Now, do you really want to submit to it like this, forever?

If not, this list is the way out.

Here’s how it works:

Imagine you’ve been living in the dark your whole life. It’s not too bad, and you’ve gotten used to it. Comfortable even.

But suddenly, something happens and the lights turn on. You can see that you’re in prison, and exactly what kind of prison it is. The lights may go back out a moment later, but you can’t un-see this. And now, you see you have choices. You can only now, decide what to do about it- whether to stay, or go.

This is exactly what happens, when you explore the list.

Which is why Kristen considers it to be a mandatory first step to (hopefully) guiding you out of that prison and into other possibilities.

"Most folks with emotional issues don't know this, but they're getting some sort of payoff for keeping those issues around. And they don't want to give that up."

-Kristen Ulmer

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Kristen has helped tens of thousands of clients make powerful perspective shifts around fear and anxiety...

Now it’s your turn

Don’t stay in denial a moment longer. Review this list and wake up to your patterns now.

STEP 1 :  Click the Add to Cart button, then checkout using our secure checkout page

STEP 2 : You will immediately be sent a download link to view the manual

STEP 3 : You can always find the manual in the download section of myaccount

STEP 4 :   Start reading and start speaking your new inclusive language

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List of Payoffs For Keeping Your Problem Around

Identifying the payoff for keeping your problem around.




    Kristen hears this a lot. Yet, once she starts working with a client, they both discover that’s actually not true. In fact, they discover, especially if the emotional issues has been around for awhile, the payoffs are quite numerous, or often elaborate or often very deeply hidden.

    So, while we know this seems hard to process right now, that’s all the more reason for you to view this list. We think you’re going to be very surprised by what you discover, and how much of an impact this information has on your recovery.

    Absolutely. This will help you understand in no uncertain terms why your loved one won’t do anything to help themselves. More importantly, it will show you how you may be enabling them, by contributing to or even providing their payoff.

    This list is as much for you, as it is for them.

    That is up to you. For some folks- to see it is to stop it. Merely seeing your payoffs, makes you organically take steps to give up those payoffs. And this list can be all you need to wake up and make changes.

    For others, you require an extra nudge, or extra work. You may go unconscious again the very next day, in which case come back to the list with fresh eyes again and again, until you really ‘get it.”

    And once you get it, know there will be a tipping point where the costs of keeping the problem around suddenly exceed the payoffs for keeping the problem around. Then and only then, it’s time to get to work, to manifest a different future.