Fear or Anxiety is Ruining My Life

Fear or Anxiety is Ruining My Life

What Causes This Issue

If fear or anxiety is ruining your enjoyment of life, here's what has gone wrong:

Everyone is different, of course, but there’s also one distinct commonality in all folks who struggle with fear or anxiety issues, versus those who don’t.

My name is Kristen Ulmer. After being considered “fearless” and the best in the world at a very scary sport for over a decade, leading to 30+ years dissecting the root cause of fear or anxiety issues, here it is:

You have an amygdala. It’s the oldest part of your brain determining safe or not safe. All incoming data to your system is first run through this amygdala, and if there’s a perceived threat, it manufactures fear and sends it into your body. But the thing is, to the Amygdala, EVERYTHING is a perceived threat. As a result, fear is with you every moment of every day.

You’re either aware of this or it’s completely under your radar. But know, this is true for everyone.

The difference then, between those who have a fear or anxiety issue versus those who don’t, is 100% determined by how you subsequently deal with this ongoing fear.

If you’re in flow with it, fear enters your body and runs it’s course in 10-90 seconds (proven by science), providing for you energy, action, clarity, intuition, motivation and more. Then it’s gone.

Again and again this happens, and it’s a helpful process leading to constant, on-point action.

Conversely, if you try to fight, overcome, conquer, ignore, avoid or generally resist your everyday fear, then you get in trouble. Your personal resistance habit usually starts in childhood, where you unconsciously either avoid or learn to stop the flow of fear in your own unique way, much like stopping the flow of water from going through a hose. It’s also reinforced by a fear-adverse society.

The result? That fear, which is no longer in flow, then gets trapped in your body, builds up, and starts recirculating. Which is anxiety.

Or, other issues develop such as OCD, irrational fear, panic attacks, PTSD, depression, anger issues, depression, physical issues, insomnia and so much more.

The good news is, your habit regarding fear can be unlearned and replaced with a better habit, that changes everything. Keep reading.

"When an industry-wide approach hasn't worked for far too long, it's time to re-think and completely re-boot. This must happen, regarding anxiety."

- Kristen Ulmer

What Makes it Worse

This may surprise you, but the more you engage in numerous, well-intended and popular methods to reduce your anxiety, the more your issue grows over time.

The reason being, imagine fear as your child. Like with anyone, whenever you try to control, get rid of or conquer an individual (this last one suggests a war), you may win a battle here and there. But who likes to be controlled or fought with like that? Certainly not fear. It leaves your child no choice but to retaliate and fight back.

Keep it up, you now have a persistent and escalating issue with that child (fear), causing it to be more aggressive over time. We see this statistically, as 40% of anxiety sufferers report greater anxiety this year than last.

Adding to the problem, it becomes cyclical. As fear becomes more aggressive, you may ramp up your efforts, seeing these popular methods as your only salvation to feel better. It may never occur to you that the very methods that seem to help, only aggravate fear further, making it also ramp up its efforts in return.

Here are some of the methods I see regarding how we deal with fear (aka anxiety) that cause worse problems, and brief explanations why: 

  • Distract yourself from it: by doing something you love, exercising, going out with friends etc. It's a temporary 'running-away' solution, which leaves fear no choice but to either chase you or tsunami you later when you're less distracted.

  • Ignore it: you go numb or stoic, or use food, alcohol or prescription / recreational drugs etc. to accomplish this. Does not make it go away, only makes it yell louder to get your attention. These efforts also cause other problems in your life.

  • Avoid it: quit your job, simplify your life, not take risks etc. Alas, fear is with you regardless. You cannot avoid that inevitable part of life. Do this, and it only shows up in different places, in different ways.

  • Replace it with positivity: breathing exercises, goal-oriented meditation, 'choosing' calm, laughter, gratitude etc. Makes you feel great in the moment, yet It's like putting a band-aid over a wound. Alas, under that facade, it just starts to fester.

  • Let it go: Breathing exercises, guided meditation, visualization etc. Turns out fear is not like CO2. It can't or shouldn't be let go of. It's more like food that's supposed to digested. Anything else is controlling (see below).

  • Control or regulate it: Who likes to be controlled? Certainly not the amygdala, and certainly not fear. They are more sophisticated than you and if you try this, they only control you right back (in either obvious or covert ways).

  • Fight it: conquer, overcome, etc. Such language puts you at war with fear and thus at war with yourself. When all fails, leads to use of prescription or recreational drug use as it's the only way to "win" that war.

  • Train your brain: CBT. Anxiety disorders are called 'mental' illness, and are thus being dealt with mentally. Yet, they're emotional illness, which need to be dealt with emotionally. Anything else is off point, and thus loads of effort.

  • Rationalize it away: CBT. This is akin to rationalizing away the nature of life itself. Very difficult. Triggers fear to move out of your emotional body and invade your thoughts. Also, can cause you to be at war with your own mind.

  • Try to understand it: talk therapy, studying neuroscience etc. Interesting stuff, but keeps you trapped in your head, dealing with it intellectually rather than learning how to feel it in an emotional way. It's the biggest form of resistance I see.

What to Do Instead

You’re No Longer Going to Engage in Methods That Only Offer You, At Best, Temporary Relief

To make this transition from resistance to flow, because everyone is different, you must first clarify and understand why you have your specific fear or anxiety issue in the first place.

Then, you must contemplate your current methods to find relief. Are they only offering you a temporary solution? If you stop, does your fear or anxiety issue only return as strong or even stronger than before? 

If so, then you have a choice to make. Keep going down that route in which you’re already invested, knowing it takes you no further than you’ve gone so far. Or, head in a new direction. 

If you choose the latter, here’s what that new direction looks like:

You learn how to recognize your fear in an honest way. You learn how to get out of your head and into your body, where the emotion lives. You learn how to allow it it’s rightful place in your life, so that it comes into, through and out of your system in 10-90 seconds, and doesn’t stay a moment longer. 

To make these shifts, of course it does require effort. But it’s a lot less effort than trying to overcome, let go of or rationalize away fear your whole life. And, you finally get the results you desire. 

You get to stop being a statistic, and instead be among the folks who do NOT have a fear or anxiety issue. 

Get in flow with your fear the way nature intended, and be amazed how quickly everything changes. 

How to Make That Transition

To get you started on this journey, I recommend my Step by Step Do’s and Don’ts of Anxiety manual. It may even be the only piece you need.

In this manual, first you become clear about why you have your personal fear or anxiety issue in the first place. Then, all methods of relief, one by one, are broken down into explanations of why they’re taught, and why they help you feel better. You also discover why they unfortunately, also contribute to the growing anxiety epidemic we face today. Plan to be amazed by what you learn and how obvious what the problem has been for you, and for us all. Expect multiple ah-ha moments, one after the other.

The second half of the manual provides a new practice, that now makes sense to address and resolve your fear or anxiety issue from the ground up. You learn step by step how to stop dealing with your fear and other emotions intellectually, which can be very confusing and complicated. And learn instead how to deal with them emotionally, which is more precise and simple.

You also learn how to shift from a breathe-away, replace or fight approach, which becomes relentless. To instead, an inclusive approach, which has been proven by science to be 100X more effective in resolving anxiety.

Once you experience and learn these exact steps and implement them, which require a few minutes a day of your time, you quickly see why they work so well. They’re what resolves your fear or anxiety issue, for good. 

Fear is a deep wisdom that lies within you, that’s merely jumping up and down trying to get your attention. I help you make friends with it, in an honest way.

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Kristen helped over ten thousand clients turn their fear or anxiety issue around...

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There have been revolutions in almost every area of life: science, technology, nutrition and more. So, why are we still using old or similar methods and modalities to address fear or anxiety? They aren’t working. Fear or Anxiety is only getting worse. Sleep issues are on the rise. Recreational or prescription drug use, too often seems like the only option.

Plus, we’re only being offered symptom control. And, nowhere in all this, is an explanation as to why we face these growing issues in the first place.

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Frequently Asked Questions

I’ve tried everything and nothing has worked. Why shouldn't I assume this won’t be the same dead end?

Most efforts to deal with fear or anxiety are about symptom control –calming you down only for a moment or day. Which never lasts. They’re also, as you soon learn, exacerbating your fear or anxiety, which keeps you stuck in a cycle of symptom control that can become relentless.

Kristen’s approach is completely different. It only addresses the root cause of your problem, and it’s proven to work. If you do exactly what she tells you to do, in fact, she’s never seen it not work.

And if it doesn’t, or you decide not to take her advice, heck with a money back guarantee you have nothing to lose.

Why just $49?

1. $49 puts this information within reach of everyone… from single moms to entrepreneurs and beyond.

2. It makes sure you’re serious. Kristen only wants to reach people who are truly ready to address and resolve their emotional problems, and in her experience charging anything… even if it’s just a dollar… eliminates 99% of the folks who aren’t.

She also believes that once you experience this manual, that you’ll want more of what she has to offer. And maybe… just maybe… you’ll come back with an even greater curiosity to see what else is possible, with this unique and powerful work.

And that’s it. No fine print…no spinning words. Just super practical advice that gains you completely different results than anything you’ve ever tried before.

Is Kristen a doctor or therapist?

No. Kristen’s training started with real world experience; being the best in the world at a difficult sport for 12 years, exploring exactly what works and what doesn’t regarding fear and other emotions, in a heightened environment.

Then, she voraciously studied not psychology, but Zen for over 15 years. This is what helped her most of all, establish and solidify her current methods and practices.

Her third credential came from working with over ten thousand clients now, over the last two decades, helping them gain remarkable and proven results.

Does what Kristen teaches, really work?

YES! Check out her testimonials. Plus, once it all gets broken down, it’s so shockingly obvious what the problem has been for you and what to do instead, you are surprised you never thought of this before.

What else does Kristen have to offer?

If the 100 Questions don’t appeal to you, write an email to: Kristen@kristenulmer.com and tell us what’s going on and what you’re looking for, so we can steer you in the right direction

It sounds too good to be true.

Sure does. So do a lot of things that are revolutionary and new. But why don’t you find out for yourself. It’s only $9, and you get your money back if it proves to be anything less than it promises.

Why should I buy this manual versus talk with a therapist?

Besides the dramatic price difference? Three reasons:

First, emotional problems are not meant to be dealt with intellectually. Which is why talking and thinking about your fear with a therapist won’t help. Instead, as you soon learn, they’re meant to be dealt with emotionally.

Second, therapists learn about fear or anxiety as theory in college. Kristen learned by dealing with a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety, experimenting with exactly what works and what doesn’t, leading her to become the best in the world at something very scary for 12 years. This makes her methods very practical, based entirely on experience, and also explains why they work so well. Consider this as you make your choice.

Third, what Kristen teaches isn’t available in college curriculum, which means therapists don’t know about this yet. It’s only available here.

Is there a guarantee?

Of course! All of Kristen’s content and trainings have a 5-week, no-questions-asked guarantee.

If you aren’t happy for any reason, just let us know and we give you your money back. We obviously don’t think it’ll come to that, but if you’re even the least bit worried, let us put your mind at ease. Either you get the answers and results you want or you get your money back. It’s that simple.

Tell me about the money back guarantee?

5-week money back guarantee. If you experience the manual and it doesn’t offer you all it promises and more, send us an email and you get a full refund.

I'd rather work with Kristen privately. Can I do that?

Kristen is currently working with clients one-on-one, so that option is available to you should you desire. Find out more here: https://www.kristenulmer.com/private-sessions-with-kristen/